BDSM Sex Dictionary

Anal dilation

Anal dilation refers to the careful and gradual widening of the anal area, usually the sphincter, so that fingers, toys or other objects can be inserted more co…

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Ampallang

An ampallang is an intimate piercing through the glans of the penis. The jewellery is placed horizontally through the glans; depending on the variation, the ure…

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Agreements

Agreements refer to the essential and indispensable communication that takes place before a BDSM session. Within this framework, the expectations, wishes, and b…

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ATM / arse to mouth

ATM stands for “arse to mouth” and refers to oral sex performed immediately after anal penetration or anal contact. This carries a significantly increased risk …

Traffic light system

The traffic light system is a simple code system for communication during BDSM or other intense situations. It helps people express boundaries quickly and clear…

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Breath control

Breath control is a risky erotic practice in which breathing is deliberately restricted or interrupted to increase arousal. The term is also sometimes used in c…

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Ambiamory

Ambiamory describes people who can feel comfortable in both monogamous and polyamorous relationship styles. For ambiamorous people, what matters is not whether …

Abattage – Slaughter

Abattage, also referred to as slaughter, is a term used in a BDSM context. It describes a situation in which a person identified as a slave is made available to…

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AO / All without

Sex without a condom or other protective measures. The term is often used as shorthand for unprotected intercourse. This significantly increases the risk of STI…