Solumromantic

Solumromantic is a proposed term for a romantic orientation or pattern of romantic attraction. The term is not yet widely used and is not generally established. People may describe themselves as solumromantic if they experience romantic attraction to another person only, or mainly, when they are alone with that person.

This may mean that romantic feelings arise or become noticeable only in a private, undisturbed, or especially trusting situation. In groups, in public, or in the presence of other people, romantic attraction may be weaker, absent, or harder to identify. Solumromanticism does not automatically mean shyness, secrecy, fear of being public, or lack of interest; rather, it describes a specific pattern of romantic experience.

Because the term is still not widely known, its exact meaning depends strongly on how a person uses it for themselves. It is not a medical or psychological diagnosis and should not be assigned to someone from the outside. Respectful use means taking a person’s self-description seriously and, if needed, asking openly what situations, boundaries, and expectations are important to them in romantic relationships.