Aftercare

Aftercare refers to the time and measures after a BDSM session that help the people involved to recover physically and emotionally. This may include rest, cuddling, water, blankets, a calm conversation, physical care, or simply being close together. Aftercare is an important part of responsible BDSM, because an intense scene can be demanding not only physically but also psychologically.

The submissive or bottom partner may especially need safety, reassurance and emotional grounding after a session. The dominant partner may also need aftercare, because intense roles, responsibility and tension can have a strong after-effect. Good BDSM therefore considers not only the session itself, but also what happens afterwards. Aftercare should be discussed in advance so that everyone knows what they need and what to expect.